I come from a religious tradition and schools that value inclusive language. I pride myself on religious and non-religious language that thinks about the possibilities and works to include them. Your wedding must include your intentions to get married and a pronouncement of your marriage but everything else is up to us. I use the pronouns and words for your fiancee that tell me to use. If something doesn’t fit you as individuals or your relationship, we can change it. If you have concerns about what I’ll say or even if you just want to know what happens during the wedding ceremony, I’m happy to talk you through the wedding and after retainer to give you a draft of your ceremony.