Elopements are just as important

COVID-19 has helped us all realize what is most important to us. An elopement or microwedding is not less than a venue wedding. In fact, it’s more. It’s more intimate and it’s most definitely about those getting married.. These two lovely people allowed me to preside at their wedding in an idyllic spot. While both partners have very busy academic and professional schedules, it was easy to carve out time for this wedding and zoom pre-marital sessions. This was before I had figured socially distanced childcare out and they allowed my children to sit at a nearby park bench during the wedding.

Scottie Fox and Grey Hare wed

Wedding of Fox and Hare was on a Sunday afternoon in February. It was a surprisingly hot sunny day with clear skies, right after the harshest of winter storms in 40 decades. The original date – valentine’s day would have been during a huge snowstorm storm, we re-shuffled the day because of the weather. They chose Valentine’s because Hare had Monday off work so they’d have a nice long weekend together.
The photographer chose a spot just below the park pavilion with trees as the background. It was near the street and one truck rolled down their windows to watch. Several people from the nearby parks watched as well. They were all respectful and didn’t shout or honk and just proceeded along their way or with their own business after the bouquet toss. They picked the location because it is one of the many spots in the city that Grey knows well.
10-12 guests some in fur suits and some without. Melissa asked guests to affirm their marriage and promise to support them by by either saying “We will” or to give their “awoo”.

The couple communicated online and met at a furry con. They have shared their lives together and have done much to benefit the greater Dallas community together. Hare shared that Fox took care of him when his paw was injured. Scottie Fox shared that Grey took care of her when she was sick. Their visions for their wedding were to be at con but they know this might not be the year that could happen due to COVID. They knew it was time to make it legal and couldn’t wait for their dream ceremony. Though it wasn’t what they initially planned, we were still able to make it special. This was their nice outdoor microwedding with a small group of the community.
Scottie Fox (she/her) shared “There’s a very large community of furries in Dallas . We have over 200 active furries just in the Dallas area and many many more that don’t go to our local monthly events . We have a convention once a year downtown that brings in furries across the country and the world . Our furry con is the 5th largest in the world . “
I used one of my inclusive ceremonies that I have pre-written. These ceremonies are suitable for people of all genders, religions as well as atheists. I use what I learn from our pre-martial discussions to add, subtract, exchange or move around certain elements to fit the unique people getting married and their relationship. The couple wrote their own vows where they promised to take care of each other and love each other forever.
Fox’s paws were too big for traditional wedding rings. The two brought a beautiful silver chain which Hare delicately looped around Fox’s arm and then his own arm somewhat like a handfasting.
There were tears during the ceremony. After I pronounced them as married, instead of saying you may now kiss .. I said you may now boop noses and “awoo”. I had practiced my awoo which I planned to came out sounding like a wolf even though I forgot that I would be wearing a Neko (lucky cat) COVID mask.
We snapped a photo together. After the boutique toss. I signed their marriage license on-site so the photographer could get a picture. We also utilized the two optional witness signature lines on the marriage license. Hare had several photo locations he had thought through. I said congratulations and goodbye then quietly departed so that they could get more pictures and celebrate with their friends.

Quick Make It Legal

I do quick make it legal ceremonies in the Burleson, TX area but I do think ceremonies are important. Every wedding is important and special. These two wonderful men have been together sixteen years. They unfortunately had to re-schedule their original date but I am so glad they called me again. We still were able to have a touching ceremony in Old Towne Burleson.

Quick Make it Legal Wedding #husbandanfhusband

Courthouse Alternative Wedding Ceremony

These two amazing grooms scheduled their wedding ceremony for just a few minutes after their wedding license waiting period was up. They could have easily paid for a judge at the courthouse to legally join them in matrimony. Instead they allowed me to be their officiant and celebrated with their friends in a ceremony designed just for them. I spent time getting to know them, their love story and their great relationship. Together we talked through different locations. They scouted out spots during their waiting period and they were able to pick the exact spot. You can have a marriage without a ceremony but ceremonies are still important. #husbandandhusband #gaywedding

Courthouse Alternative Wedding Ceremony

These two amazing grooms scheduled their wedding ceremony for just a few minutes after their wedding license waiting period was up. They could have easily paid for a judge at the courthouse to legally join them in matrimony. Instead they allowed me to be their officiant and celebrated with their friends in a ceremony designed just for them. I spent time getting to know them, their love story and their great relationship. Together we talked through different locations. They scouted out spots during their waiting period and they were able to pick the exact spot. You can have a marriage without a ceremony but ceremonies are still important. #husbandandhusband #gaywedding